Circle So Small You Almost Cut Yourself Off? 10 Signs You’re A Bad Friend

[caption id="attachment_822720" align="aligncenter" width="1068"] Portrait of a young african woman showing thumb down over gray background[/caption] Most of us have no problem identifying toxic people in our circles, but when we're the problem we're usually the last to know. In a relationship, a partner is usually quick to check bad behavior -- or their displeasure with you will be so obvious the issue will have to be addressed. But when it comes to friendships, the dissolution usually starts with a slow drift. In fact, your girls may never confront you about their feelings, you'll just look up one day and realize you haven't spoken to so and so in six months and wonder what went wrong. If you didn't intentionally cut your former friends off, then perhaps it's your actions that caused the schism. In other words, you're a bad friend and no one wants to be bothered with you anymore. Worried that might be the case? See if you fit any of these signs. [caption id="attachment_698672" align="aligncenter" width="421"] Image Source: Shutterstock[/caption]

You only call people when you have drama

You never call anyone to check on them, if you pick up the phone it's for another episode of "Girl let me tell you what happened." And if things are going well, you don't pick up the phone at all. [caption id="attachment_701334" align="aligncenter" width="420"] Image Source: Shutterstock[/caption]

Your drama leaves your friends emotionally drained

There's needing a shoulder to lean on and then there's draining the life out of people to the point that they're internalizing your stuff like it's their own. Your friends have to emotionally prepare to be around you and engage in some sort of act of self-care afterward. [caption id="attachment_723936" align="aligncenter" width="414"] Shutterstock[/caption]

You find out everything about your friends' lives on social media

They haven't cut you out of their lives, they just don't bother calling to tell you about their successes because they know you either won't care or will try to downplay their news in some kind of way. [caption id="attachment_611719" align="aligncenter" width="406"] Shutterstock[/caption]

You're a dream crusher

Whenever a friend tells you they want to try something new, your first response is "Are you sure?" and then you come up with no less than 67 reasons why they shouldn't do it. [caption id="attachment_728100" align="aligncenter" width="1068"] Shutterstock[/caption]

And you don't support them when they actually do it.

When your friend starts her PR business, you don't think, "Let me be her first paying client," you think, "Oh great, now she can help me for free." When another friend writes a book, you don't think to buy a copy. [caption id="attachment_744620" align="aligncenter" width="1068"] shutterstock[/caption]

You're needy

You always need help moving, coming up with an idea for a work project, getting to the airport, or fixing something around the house. Whenever you call, friends know a request of some sort is coming. [caption id="attachment_710061" align="aligncenter" width="420"] Image Source: Shutterstock[/caption]

And you don't reciprocate

Your friends have come to your rescue a million and one times, yet whenever they need you you're too busy and feel no way about telling them as much. [caption id="attachment_745348" align="aligncenter" width="1068"] Shutterstock.com/happy couple in bed[/caption]

You regularly put men before your girls

It can happen easily in a new relationship because you're so thirsty to spend time with this new love. But we're talking about cutting off your girls when they told you the man who ended up being no good for you was no good for you before you saw it, skipping all girls' nights to lay up with your man, and taking this new man's word for it when he claims your girls have it out for him.

You tell your friends' business

Also known as talking about them behind their backs. You assume when Tracey tells you something, it's okay to tell Mya and Tameka too -- and don't hesitate to voice your opinion over why your "friend" is stupid for having whatever problem she has. Meanwhile, Mya and Tameka had no idea all this was going on, now they feel a way your mutual friend didn't tell them what was going on and new drama is sparked. [caption id="attachment_729302" align="alignnone" width="1068"] shutterstock[/caption]

You're concerned with status

You've absolutely cut off a close friend you've known since college in favor of befriending a woman who could boost your career, even though you really don't care for her.

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