Ever been with someone who thrives on evoking jealousy in you?
I’m talking about women who are a little too excited to tell their men about the co-worker who’s been undressing her with his eyes at the office.
I’m talking about the men who can’t wait to tell their girlfriends about the store cashier who asked for his phone number at the grocery store.
Y’all know who I’m talking about – the type of people who live for seeing their partners squirm.
Well, they damn sure won’t get a reaction out of me because – well, I don’t know if it’s because I’m up to their schemes or I am just not easily rattled by others’ interest in my significant other – but my facial expression will be poker faced to high hell and not offer a single flying you-know-what for their satisfaction.
Not one.
One day, after replying “Okay, have fun” when a former partner of mine told me he was going to a Poconos weekend party with his frat brothers, he said, “Wait. That’s it?”
I looked at him blankly. “What’s it?”
“You’re not going to hound me about who’s going to be there? You’re not going to demand that I call you every so often to make sure everything’s okay?”
Why is this grown a** man asking me to babysit him?
“I just sometimes feel like you’re not jealous enough, and it makes me question whether you really care,” he said.
Record scratch.
So you mean to tell me because I trust you and I know you won’t do anything that would jeopardize our relationship, I’m the bad guy? What kind of backwards logic is that?
His “you’re not jealous enough” statement was sparked after a culmination of poker faces I’ve pulled in response to the many times he’s tried to illicit some sort of enraged, green-eyed monster out of me to coax his ego. But what he doesn’t understand is that I don’t get into relationships with people I don’t trust.
I observed my ex from afar before we got together — when he was coupled up with someone else. Whenever she wasn’t present at an event, he was admiringly adamant about not getting into situations that would threaten his relationship.
In witnessing his character, I wholeheartedly trusted that he would know how to conduct himself if temptation crept up and tapped him on the shoulder. If I have to monitor a man’s every move to make sure he doesn’t betray my trust, and exhaust the living hell out of myself, then that just goes to show you he ain’t worth a lick of salt, don’t you think?
Jealousy, they often say, is when someone feels threatened by the possibility of losing someone. Maybe that’s where I differ from women who morph into the Jolly Green Giant, or rather the Jelly Green Giant – there is nothing remotely “threatening” about losing a disloyal man. Sounds like a burden off my back to me!
But just because I don’t fly into a fit of rage when a girl double taps your photo doesn’t mean I don’t care about you; it just means I wholeheartedly trust you. Isn’t that a good thing?
What do you think? If someone doesn’t show signs of jealousy, does that mean they’re not into you?
Kimberly Gedeon is a content creator with nearly 2,000 professional articles published online about everything from beauty and business to politics and pop culture. You can follow her on Twitter @sweetenedcafe or Instagram @kimmiexsweetie
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